Of course it goes without saying that in your self-analysis you should avoid using alcohol or drugs as an aid, thinking that only through their help can the real you come to the surface liberated and stimulated. It does not. Alcohol and drugs may create a cosy sense of wellbeing and a rosily enhanced view of your life but as a New York therapist points out to his patients, neither illusion is likely to be accurate or be any longer lasting than the effects of the drink or drug.
Do not fall into the trap either of examining yourself through a jaundiced eye so that all you see is failure. Seeing yourself as a failure is one of the most common reactions to the male-menopause and it affects all areas of life; sex and health as much as work. So take a positive and, if possible, optimistic attitude and see through the gloom.
Advice therapists offer their patients at this time is: concentrate on yourself. This applies to all men during M-M and if it sounds like selfish consideration contrary to everything we have been taught since childhood, it is. It is only by concentrating on yourself that you can improve your life.
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